About My Approach
My approach is practical, client-centred, and rooted in achieving real change.
My job is to learn about you, figure out what you want and where you're stuck, and offer you tools and guidance specific to you and your situation.
Below, you’ll find the main models I draw from, and how they come together in the work I do.
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An Introduction to Data Point Coaching
This page introduces you to the core elements of my method, Data Point Coaching (DPC). DPC is a practical, responsive way of helping people create real change — grounded in curiosity, present-moment exploration, and attuned relational presence. It synthesises and builds upon a variety of established approaches, whilst also integrating my own unique additions. Below, you’ll find the foundations, structure, and guiding principles of how I work. I’ve created handmade icons to visually represent key aspects of the method — some of which appear in the explanations below.
1. The Triad of Change
At the core of Data Point Coaching is a set of foundational assumptions about the human condition and how we change.
The Triad of Change & The CORE Aim
Principle 1: People are self-organising systems. The way someone thinks, feels, and behaves emerges from the current internal “system” that’s running.
The Triad of Change
Principle 2: We are all developing.
Each of us carries a natural drive toward well-being, growth, and self-expression.
Principle 3: People update their internal model of the world when they find a new data point — a fresh way of seeing themselves, others, or the world.
The CORE Aim of DPC:
Help someone find a new internal data point — one that shifts their system towards growth.
The Triad of Change & The CORE Aim
The Triad of Change
Principle 1: People are self-organising systems. The way someone thinks, feels, and behaves emerges from the current internal “system” that’s running.
Principle 2: We are all developing.
Each of us carries a natural drive toward well-being, growth, and self-expression.
Principle 3: People update their internal model of the world when they find a new data point — a fresh way of seeing themselves, others, or the world.
The CORE Aim of DPC:
Help someone find a new data point — the one that shifts their system.
2. The Sequence of a Session
A typical Data Point Coaching session flows through 4 main stages:
1. Setting an Aim
The session begins by identifying what the client most wants to understand, shift, or move towards. This step helps orient the session around the client’s intention — which may be practical, emotional, or existential.
“What would you ideally want to get from speaking together?”
4. Reforming a New Whole
As insights surface, the final stage of the session supports integration. Clients reflect on what’s shifted, what now feels clearer, and how they want to take that forward. This stage consolidates new awareness into a usable sense of change.
“What do you notice now when you think about that situation?"
2. Identifying Key Circumstances
Instead of staying abstract, DPC focuses on when and where the issue shows up. By exploring specific situations where the challenge arises, the work becomes grounded and usable.
“When is this a problem for you?” “Can you give me a recent example?”
3. Exploring & Offering Interventions
This is the main body of the session. Together, coach and client slow down the situations identified in Step 2, track responses, explore intentions, and uncover patterns. Interventions — such as reflection, psychoeducation, or experiential exercises — arise naturally from the information gathered.
1. Setting an Aim
The session begins by identifying what the client most wants to understand, shift, or move towards. This step helps orient the session around the client’s intention — which may be practical, emotional, or existential.
“What would you ideally want to get from speaking together?”
2. Identifying Key Circumstances
Instead of staying abstract, DPC focuses on when and where the issue shows up. By exploring specific situations where the challenge arises, the work becomes grounded and usable.
“When is this a problem for you?” “Can you give me a recent example?”
3. Exploring & Offering Interventions
This is the main body of the session. Together, coach and client slow down the situations identified in Step 2, track responses, explore intentions, and uncover patterns. Interventions — such as reflection, psychoeducation, or experiential exercises — arise naturally from the information gathered.
4. Reforming a New Whole
As insights surface, the final stage of the session supports integration. Clients reflect on what’s shifted, what now feels clearer, and how they want to take that forward. This stage consolidates new awareness into a usable sense of change.
“What do you notice now when you think about that situation?"
3. Foundations That Free
These are the foundational principles that aim to create the conditions for transformation and growth — not by imposing change, but by creating an atmosphere for change to emerge. Click on a heading below to learn more about a principle.
• Held with Curiosity
Sessions are exploratory and driven by deep curiosity about what you’re experiencing. Everything brought into the session is treated as meaningful data — not as a problem to fix.
• Driven by Gathering Data on Present-Moment Situations and Their Relational Dynamics
Problems tend to stem from currently active patterns of perception and interpretation. Every session focuses on gathering information about how someone is engaging with current situations — especially their internal responses, meaning-making, and relational assumptions and expectations.
• The Power of Pausing
Because meaning-making happens quickly, sessions often move at a gentle rhythm — with regular pauses to reflect on emotional reactions, interpretations, and subtle shifts as they occur.
• Interventions Arise from Information Gathered and Attunement Between Coach and Client
Interventions are not imposed — they emerge from information gathered in session and the attuned relational space. The work trusts the wisdom of the moment and the unfolding rhythm between coach and client.
• Precise, Gentle Attention to Client Responses
The coach regularly checks in with the client’s internal responses to questions, ideas, and emotional shifts. This feedback loop supports real-time data gathering and responsive, attuned intervention.
• Attuned Psychoeducation & Immersive Storytelling
DPC uses psychoeducation and storytelling to help clients understand their patterns without judgment. These tools offer new frameworks for understanding and action — and support fresh perspective-taking, emotional processing, and new meaning-making.
• Reconnection to the “Energetic Self”
The core aim of DPC is to help people reconnect with what I call their Energetic Self — your felt sense of aliveness, direction, and self-expression. Some approaches call this the “true self,” however a different phrasing is used here to reflect the living nature of those parts of us that want to live, act, speak, and move in alignment with what truly matters.
• Beginning and Ending with Your Intention
DPC is intention-focused — rather than problem- or solution-focused. It centres on reconnecting with your deeper intentions and desires, reflecting on how they fit with reality, and exploring how to live them out in integrated ways.
Problems and goals are viewed as doorways — pathways through which someone can reconnect with their deeper self and core direction.
• Self-Trust, Connection, and Inner Space
Another core aim is to build capacity for deeper self-trust, relational connection, and a felt sense of space to be yourself — whilst appreciating others’ desire for these things also.
• Starts With What’s Already Organising & Probes for Emergent Change
People are self-organising systems. The work listens for what the system is already trying to do — and supports it rather than overriding it.
As a result, change is not manufactured or forced. Every intervention is viewed as an offer to the person’s system — and change arises naturally when the right new data point is found that allows the system to reorganise on its own terms.
• Clarity Over Catharsis
The goal isn’t emotional release for its own sake. The emphasis is on reflection and insight — which increase the system’s ability to process emotion and create meaningful change, often through subtle shifts rather than dramatic breakthroughs.
• Relational Presence Is the Container
Everything happens within a field of authentic human connection — not through technique alone, but through genuine relational presence. This presence is what creates the conditions for emotional regulation and integration.
• We Are Shaped By Our Life Experiences
DPC regards life experiences as shaping people in two main ways: they shape personality, and they shape prediction.
A trauma-informed understanding of personality acknowledges that people develop psychological strategies of protection — to keep themselves and their relationships safe. Growth often involves moving beyond these protective strategies.
A trauma-informed view of prediction recognises that fearful or anxious expectations often come from emotional dysregulation and prior negative outcomes — and that new emotional realities can be learned.
• Connection and Disconnection
Borrowed from NARM, this principle describes how reconnecting to your energy for life — your Energetic Self — often leads to the surfacing of unresolved emotional material. Connection tends to lead to disconnection. This is not a sign of failure, but a natural part of the healing arc.
• The Data Point Perspective
DPC maintains a forward-facing, hopeful stance. It does not pathologise or fixate on trauma, but encourages optimism, humour, and a non-judgemental appreciation of human complexity. It affirms your ability to connect, heal, and enjoy life again.
• The Body Mediates Meaning and Flow
The body reflects our patterns of meaning-making. Self-attacking or fear-based interpretations often show up as chronic contraction or collapse, blocking energetic flow. Self-affirming meaning-making tends to manifest in a more expansive, balanced, and relaxed physical tone, supporting energetic flow.
• Tracking Positive Internal Shifts
Sessions place emphasis on tracking positive internal shifts — as these often signal a reconnection with the self and support the growth of inner capacities to regulate emotion and engage more fully with life.
• Present-Moment First
The focus is on what’s happening now — in the system, in the body, and in the mind. Even when the past arises, what matters is how it’s being held or re-enacted in the present moment.
• Insight Is Grounded in the Senses, Not Just Cognitive Understanding
Sessions engage the senses — you might be invited to picture a scene, imagine someone beside you, tune in to inner sounds, or notice subtle shifts in sensation. The aim is to create a rich, immersive experience where sensory awareness deepens insight and anchors it within a person’s patterns of meaning-making.
• Embodied Exploration Supports Integration
This style of working makes change more likely to “stick.” Clients often report that what happens in session stays alive inside them for days or weeks afterward, leading to natural integration and change — not through effort, but because it was deeply felt, fully experienced, and taken in.
• Cognitive Work and Psychoeducation, Delivered Through the Senses
Even reflective insights and psychoeducation are shared through story, metaphor, and an embodied, engaging delivery. Information isn’t just explained — it’s experienced, explored, and allowed to ripple through the system.
• Transparent Offering of Interpretations and Suggestions
In DPC, interpretation and intervention are not hidden behind a veil of neutrality. They are named, offered openly, and treated as part of the relational rhythm of change.
• “Diagnostic” Use of Interventions
Some interventions are used not just for change, but to gather more data. For example, inviting a client to reword a sentence may reveal whether a shift occurs or not — both outcomes offer valuable information about the client’s system.
• Precision is a Tool, Not a Trick
DPC values informational clarity and is transparent about using it — unlike some models that depend on interpretation without naming it. Precise observation and description of patterns potentially give the client new data points to reframe situations and themselves.
• Interventions as Invitations to a New Experience
Rather than imposing meaning, DPC interventions are framed as offers — invitations to try on a new sentence, perspective, or frame. The aim is not to convince, but to give the client a live opportunity to experience themselves or a situation differently.
• Every Response is Meaningful Data
Whether an offer lands with impact, feels flat, or evokes resistance — every reaction reveals something about the client’s internal structure. The intervention is successful either way — as a moment of transformation or as a diagnostic reflection.
• A Creative and Collaborative Rhythm
The coach brings boldness, creativity, and precision — but always within a relational feedback loop. If an offer doesn’t resonate, it’s openly discussed, reshaped, or let go. This cultivates a shared atmosphere where insights emerge, not dictate.
4. Themes of Intervention
These are recurring interventions that often arise in session. They include pivotal reflections and tools that tend to support transformation and growth. They’re not applied as fixed techniques, but offered in response to the specific goal or issue being explored in the moment.
Curiosity might not seem like an intervention — but it’s often the most powerful one of all. Not when used as a technique or strategy, but when it comes from a sincere desire to understand and support you. When someone is genuinely curious about your experience, it invites you to become curious about yourself — and that’s often the first step toward self-compassion, insight, and change.
In a session, we often explore the emotional responses that arise in specific situations, and uncover the deeper intentions behind them — even when the feelings or behaviours seem confusing at first. This reveals the internal logic of your system and helps you perceive yourself with more clarity. In doing so, it supports reconnection to a deeper current of vitality — what I call the Energetic Self.
Reflection and psychoeducation on the human condition are central to the DPC approach. Insights from developmental, cognitive, and evolutionary psychology help clients make sense of unconscious emotional drives and patterns — so these can be felt, understood, and related to with greater acceptance and compassion.
Why?
Because we often reflexively turn to shame, self-blame, or perfectionism to explain our struggles. DPC invites clients into a broader view of the human experience — one that honours how survival strategies and protective patterns form, and how self-understanding can create the conditions for growth.
People often become freer not by “fixing themselves,” but by understanding themselves more deeply.
Many people are fused with their thinking without realising it. Interventions may explore how thoughts arise, how they are believed, and how they lose their grip when seen in a wider frame. This helps people separate from negative identifications and habitual beliefs.
Much interpersonal suffering comes from assuming that others see the world as we do. Sessions often include reflections on the idea of separate realities — the fact that different people interpret the same event in different ways. This helps reduce conflict, defensiveness, and confusion in relationships.
Often, the heart of an issue lies in resistance.
A powerful intervention is to help someone see where they’re demanding that life be different from how it is — and how much stress that creates and energy it consumes. Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up; it means seeing clearly. From that clarity, you can respond more effectively and direct your energy where it truly matters.
Sometimes change happens not internally, but externally — through expressing a need, setting a boundary, or influencing a dynamic. DPC includes the use of conversational models (such as Nonviolent Communication, reframing, or perceptual positioning) to help clients engage more skilfully with others.
Some sessions work with past events or persistent mental images. When helpful, this includes guided processes to re-encode emotional memories, transform internal representations, or update outdated meaning structures — using methods drawn from hypnotherapy, NLP, and related approaches.
Sometimes a powerful shift happens when just a few words are changed. For example, altering a sentence from "She attacked MY idea" to "She attacked THIS idea" can move someone from personalised defensiveness to a more detached and spacious view. These micro-adjustments offer an opportunity to experience the situation in a new way.
These interventions may seem small, but across a session, many such "nudges" may accumulate. Each small reframing opens space for a broader reorganisation of meaning. A session may build toward a moment of larger insight, but it happens through a series of layered micro-shifts.
These conceptual reframes are never forced. They are offered to the client like trying on a new lens. The client decides if the shift is helpful or not. If it doesn’t resonate, it becomes a point of reflection and further exploration. The aim is to co-create fresh conceptual possibilities that support change and integration.
3. Foundations That Free
These are the foundational principles that aim to create the conditions for transformation and growth — not by imposing change, but by creating an atmosphere for change to emerge. Click on a heading below to learn more about a principle.
• Held with Curiosity
Sessions are exploratory and driven by deep curiosity about what you’re experiencing. Everything brought into the session is treated as meaningful data — not as a problem to fix.
• Driven by Gathering Data on Present-Moment Situations and Their Relational Dynamics
Problems tend to stem from currently active patterns of perception and interpretation. Every session focuses on gathering information about how someone is engaging with current situations — especially their internal responses, meaning-making, and relational assumptions and expectations.
• The Power of Pausing
Because meaning-making happens quickly, sessions often move at a gentle rhythm — with regular pauses to reflect on emotional reactions, interpretations, and subtle shifts as they occur.
• Interventions Arise from Information Gathered and Attunement Between Coach and Client
Interventions are not imposed — they emerge from information gathered in session and the attuned relational space. The work trusts the wisdom of the moment and the unfolding rhythm between coach and client.
• Precise, Gentle Attention to Client Responses
The coach regularly checks in with the client’s internal responses to questions, ideas, and emotional shifts. This feedback loop supports real-time data gathering and responsive, attuned intervention.
• Attuned Psychoeducation & Immersive Storytelling
DPC uses psychoeducation and storytelling to help clients understand their patterns without judgment. These tools offer new frameworks for understanding and action — and support fresh perspective-taking, emotional processing, and new meaning-making.
• Reconnection to the “Energetic Self”
The core aim of DPC is to help people reconnect with what I call their Energetic Self — your felt sense of aliveness, direction, and self-expression. Some approaches call this the “true self,” however a different phrasing is used here to reflect the living nature of those parts of us that want to live, act, speak, and move in alignment with what truly matters.
• Beginning and Ending with Your Intention
DPC is intention-focused — rather than problem- or solution-focused. It centres on reconnecting with your deeper intentions and desires, reflecting on how they fit with reality, and exploring how to live them out in integrated ways.
Problems and goals are viewed as doorways — pathways through which someone can reconnect with their deeper self and core direction.
• Self-Trust, Connection, and Inner Space
Another core aim is to build capacity for deeper self-trust, relational connection, and a felt sense of space to be yourself — whilst appreciating others’ desire for these things also.
• Starts With What’s Already Organising & Probes for Emergent Change
People are self-organising systems. The work listens for what the system is already trying to do — and supports it rather than overriding it.
As a result, change is not manufactured or forced. Every intervention is viewed as an offer to the person’s system — and change arises naturally when the right new data point is found that allows the system to reorganise on its own terms.
• Clarity Over Catharsis
The goal isn’t emotional release for its own sake. The emphasis is on reflection and insight — which increase the system’s ability to process emotion and create meaningful change, often through subtle shifts rather than dramatic breakthroughs.
• Relational Presence Is the Container
Everything happens within a field of authentic human connection — not through technique alone, but through genuine relational presence. This presence is what creates the conditions for emotional regulation and integration.
• We Are Shaped By Our Life Experiences
DPC regards life experiences as shaping people in two main ways: they shape personality, and they shape prediction.
A trauma-informed understanding of personality acknowledges that people develop psychological strategies of protection — to keep themselves and their relationships safe. Growth often involves moving beyond these protective strategies.
A trauma-informed view of prediction recognises that fearful or anxious expectations often come from emotional dysregulation and prior negative outcomes — and that new emotional realities can be learned.
• Connection and Disconnection
Borrowed from NARM, this principle describes how reconnecting to your energy for life — your Energetic Self — often leads to the surfacing of unresolved emotional material. Connection tends to lead to disconnection. This is not a sign of failure, but a natural part of the healing arc.
• The Data Point Perspective
DPC maintains a forward-facing, hopeful stance. It does not pathologise or fixate on trauma, but encourages optimism, humour, and a non-judgemental appreciation of human complexity. It affirms your ability to connect, heal, and enjoy life again.
• The Body Mediates Meaning and Flow
The body reflects our patterns of meaning-making. Self-attacking or fear-based interpretations often show up as chronic contraction or collapse, blocking energetic flow. Self-affirming meaning-making tends to manifest in a more expansive, balanced, and relaxed physical tone, supporting energetic flow.
• Tracking Positive Internal Shifts
Sessions place emphasis on tracking positive internal shifts — as these often signal a reconnection with the self and support the growth of inner capacities to regulate emotion and engage more fully with life.
• Present-Moment First
The focus is on what’s happening now — in the system, in the body, and in the mind. Even when the past arises, what matters is how it’s being held or re-enacted in the present moment.
• Insight Is Grounded in the Senses, Not Just Cognitive Understanding
Sessions engage the senses — you might be invited to picture a scene, imagine someone beside you, tune in to inner sounds, or notice subtle shifts in sensation. The aim is to create a rich, immersive experience where sensory awareness deepens insight and anchors it within a person’s patterns of meaning-making.
• Embodied Exploration Supports Integration
This style of working makes change more likely to “stick.” Clients often report that what happens in session stays alive inside them for days or weeks afterward, leading to natural integration and change — not through effort, but because it was deeply felt, fully experienced, and taken in.
• Cognitive Work and Psychoeducation, Delivered Through the Senses
Even reflective insights and psychoeducation are shared through story, metaphor, and an embodied, engaging delivery. Information isn’t just explained — it’s experienced, explored, and allowed to ripple through the system.
• Transparent Offering of Interpretations and Suggestions
In DPC, interpretation and intervention are not hidden behind a veil of neutrality. They are named, offered openly, and treated as part of the relational rhythm of change.
• “Diagnostic” Use of Interventions
Some interventions are used not just for change, but to gather more data. For example, inviting a client to reword a sentence may reveal whether a shift occurs or not — both outcomes offer valuable information about the client’s system.
• Precision is a Tool, Not a Trick
DPC values informational clarity and is transparent about using it — unlike some models that depend on interpretation without naming it. Precise observation and description of patterns potentially give the client new data points to reframe situations and themselves.
• Interventions as Invitations to a New Experience
Rather than imposing meaning, DPC interventions are framed as offers — invitations to try on a new sentence, perspective, or frame. The aim is not to convince, but to give the client a live opportunity to experience themselves or a situation differently.
• Every Response is Meaningful Data
Whether an offer lands with impact, feels flat, or evokes resistance — every reaction reveals something about the client’s internal structure. The intervention is successful either way — as a moment of transformation or as a diagnostic reflection.
• A Creative and Collaborative Rhythm
The coach brings boldness, creativity, and precision — but always within a relational feedback loop. If an offer doesn’t resonate, it’s openly discussed, reshaped, or let go. This cultivates a shared atmosphere where insights emerge, not dictate.
4. Themes of Intervention
These are recurring interventions that often arise in session. They include pivotal reflections and tools that tend to support transformation and growth. They’re not applied as fixed techniques, but offered in response to the specific goal or issue being explored in the moment.
Curiosity might not seem like an intervention — but it’s often the most powerful one of all. Not when used as a technique or strategy, but when it comes from a sincere desire to understand and support you. When someone is genuinely curious about your experience, it invites you to become curious about yourself — and that’s often the first step toward self-compassion, insight, and change.
In a session, we often explore the emotional responses that arise in specific situations, and uncover the deeper intentions behind them — even when the feelings or behaviours seem confusing at first. This reveals the internal logic of your system and helps you perceive yourself with more clarity. In doing so, it supports reconnection to a deeper current of vitality — what I call the Energetic Self.
Many people carry shame, self-attack, or perfectionism. A core intervention is to invite a wider view of the human experience — how strategies for survival and self-protection emerge, and how compassion for these strategies can support growth. People often become freer not by “fixing themselves,” but by understanding themselves more deeply.
Many people are fused with their thinking without realising it. Interventions may explore how thoughts arise, how they are believed, and how they lose their grip when seen in a wider frame. This helps people separate from negative identifications and habitual beliefs.
Much interpersonal suffering comes from assuming that others see the world as we do. Sessions often include reflections on the idea of separate realities — the fact that different people interpret the same event in different ways. This helps reduce conflict, defensiveness, and confusion in relationships.
Often, the heart of an issue lies in resistance.
A powerful intervention is to help someone see where they’re demanding that life be different from how it is — and how much stress that creates and energy it consumes. Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up; it means seeing clearly. From that clarity, you can respond more effectively and direct your energy where it truly matters.
Sometimes change happens not internally, but externally — through expressing a need, setting a boundary, or influencing a dynamic. DPC includes the use of conversational models (such as Nonviolent Communication, reframing, or perceptual positioning) to help clients engage more skilfully with others.
Some sessions work with past events or persistent mental images. When helpful, this includes guided processes to re-encode emotional memories, transform internal representations, or update outdated meaning structures — using methods drawn from hypnotherapy, NLP, and related approaches.
Sometimes a powerful shift happens when just a few words are changed. For example, altering a sentence from "She attacked MY idea" to "She attacked THIS idea" can move someone from personalised defensiveness to a more detached and spacious view. These micro-adjustments offer an opportunity to experience the situation in a new way.
These interventions may seem small, but across a session, many such "nudges" may accumulate. Each small reframing opens space for a broader reorganisation of meaning. A session may build toward a moment of larger insight, but it happens through a series of layered micro-shifts.
These conceptual reframes are never forced. They are offered to the client like trying on a new lens. The client decides if the shift is helpful or not. If it doesn’t resonate, it becomes a point of reflection and further exploration. The aim is to co-create fresh conceptual possibilities that support change and integration.
3. Foundations That Free
These are the foundational principles that aim to create the conditions for transformation and growth — not by imposing change, but by creating an atmosphere for change to emerge. Click on a heading below to learn more about a principle.
• Held with Curiosity
Sessions are exploratory and driven by deep curiosity about what you’re experiencing. Everything brought into the session is treated as meaningful data — not as a problem to fix.
• Driven by Gathering Data on Present-Moment Situations and Their Relational Dynamics
Problems tend to stem from currently active patterns of perception and interpretation. Every session focuses on gathering information about how someone is engaging with current situations — especially their internal responses, meaning-making, and relational assumptions and expectations.
• The Power of Pausing
Because meaning-making happens quickly, sessions often move at a gentle rhythm — with regular pauses to reflect on emotional reactions, interpretations, and subtle shifts as they occur.
• Interventions Arise from Information Gathered and Attunement Between Coach and Client
Interventions are not imposed — they emerge from information gathered in session and the attuned relational space. The work trusts the wisdom of the moment and the unfolding rhythm between coach and client.
• Precise, Gentle Attention to Client Responses
The coach regularly checks in with the client’s internal responses to questions, ideas, and emotional shifts. This feedback loop supports real-time data gathering and responsive, attuned intervention.
• Attuned Psychoeducation & Immersive Storytelling
DPC uses psychoeducation and storytelling to help clients understand their patterns without judgment. These tools offer new frameworks for understanding and action — and support fresh perspective-taking, emotional processing, and new meaning-making.
• Reconnection to the “Energetic Self”
The core aim of DPC is to help people reconnect with what I call their Energetic Self — your felt sense of aliveness, direction, and self-expression. Some approaches call this the “true self,” however a different phrasing is used here to reflect the living nature of those parts of us that want to live, act, speak, and move in alignment with what truly matters.
• Beginning and Ending with Your Intention
DPC is intention-focused — rather than problem- or solution-focused. It centres on reconnecting with your deeper intentions and desires, reflecting on how they fit with reality, and exploring how to live them out in integrated ways.
Problems and goals are viewed as doorways — pathways through which someone can reconnect with their deeper self and core direction.
• Self-Trust, Connection, and Inner Space
Another core aim is to build capacity for deeper self-trust, relational connection, and a felt sense of space to be yourself — whilst appreciating others’ desire for these things also.
• Starts With What’s Already Organising & Probes for Emergent Change
People are self-organising systems. The work listens for what the system is already trying to do — and supports it rather than overriding it.
As a result, change is not manufactured or forced. Every intervention is viewed as an offer to the person’s system — and change arises naturally when the right new data point is found that allows the system to reorganise on its own terms.
• Clarity Over Catharsis
The goal isn’t emotional release for its own sake. The emphasis is on reflection and insight — which increase the system’s ability to process emotion and create meaningful change, often through subtle shifts rather than dramatic breakthroughs.
• Relational Presence Is the Container
Everything happens within a field of authentic human connection — not through technique alone, but through genuine relational presence. This presence is what creates the conditions for emotional regulation and integration.
• We Are Shaped By Our Life Experiences
DPC regards life experiences as shaping people in two main ways: they shape personality, and they shape prediction.
A trauma-informed understanding of personality acknowledges that people develop psychological strategies of protection — to keep themselves and their relationships safe. Growth often involves moving beyond these protective strategies.
A trauma-informed view of prediction recognises that fearful or anxious expectations often come from emotional dysregulation and prior negative outcomes — and that new emotional realities can be learned.
• Connection and Disconnection
Borrowed from NARM, this principle describes how reconnecting to your energy for life — your Energetic Self — often leads to the surfacing of unresolved emotional material. Connection tends to lead to disconnection. This is not a sign of failure, but a natural part of the healing arc.
• The Data Point Perspective
DPC maintains a forward-facing, hopeful stance. It does not pathologise or fixate on trauma, but encourages optimism, humour, and a non-judgemental appreciation of human complexity. It affirms your ability to connect, heal, and enjoy life again.
• The Body Mediates Meaning and Flow
The body reflects our patterns of meaning-making. Self-attacking or fear-based interpretations often show up as chronic contraction or collapse, blocking energetic flow. Self-affirming meaning-making tends to manifest in a more expansive, balanced, and relaxed physical tone, supporting energetic flow.
• Tracking Positive Internal Shifts
Sessions place emphasis on tracking positive internal shifts — as these often signal a reconnection with the self and support the growth of inner capacities to regulate emotion and engage more fully with life.
• Present-Moment First
The focus is on what’s happening now — in the system, in the body, and in the mind. Even when the past arises, what matters is how it’s being held or re-enacted in the present moment.
• Insight Is Grounded in the Senses, Not Just Cognitive Understanding
Sessions engage the senses — you might be invited to picture a scene, imagine someone beside you, tune in to inner sounds, or notice subtle shifts in sensation. The aim is to create a rich, immersive experience where sensory awareness deepens insight and anchors it within a person’s patterns of meaning-making.
• Embodied Exploration Supports Integration
This style of working makes change more likely to “stick.” Clients often report that what happens in session stays alive inside them for days or weeks afterward, leading to natural integration and change — not through effort, but because it was deeply felt, fully experienced, and taken in.
• Cognitive Work and Psychoeducation, Delivered Through the Senses
Even reflective insights and psychoeducation are shared through story, metaphor, and an embodied, engaging delivery. Information isn’t just explained — it’s experienced, explored, and allowed to ripple through the system.
• Transparent Offering of Interpretations and Suggestions
In DPC, interpretation and intervention are not hidden behind a veil of neutrality. They are named, offered openly, and treated as part of the relational rhythm of change.
• “Diagnostic” Use of Interventions
Some interventions are used not just for change, but to gather more data. For example, inviting a client to reword a sentence may reveal whether a shift occurs or not — both outcomes offer valuable information about the client’s system.
• Precision is a Tool, Not a Trick
DPC values informational clarity and is transparent about using it — unlike some models that depend on interpretation without naming it. Precise observation and description of patterns potentially give the client new data points to reframe situations and themselves.
• Interventions as Invitations to a New Experience
Rather than imposing meaning, DPC interventions are framed as offers — invitations to try on a new sentence, perspective, or frame. The aim is not to convince, but to give the client a live opportunity to experience themselves or a situation differently.
• Every Response is Meaningful Data
Whether an offer lands with impact, feels flat, or evokes resistance — every reaction reveals something about the client’s internal structure. The intervention is successful either way — as a moment of transformation or as a diagnostic reflection.
• A Creative and Collaborative Rhythm
The coach brings boldness, creativity, and precision — but always within a relational feedback loop. If an offer doesn’t resonate, it’s openly discussed, reshaped, or let go. This cultivates a shared atmosphere where insights emerge, not dictate.
4. Themes of Intervention
These are recurring interventions that often arise in session. They include pivotal reflections and tools that tend to support transformation and growth. They’re not applied as fixed techniques, but offered in response to the specific goal or issue being explored in the moment.
Curiosity might not seem like an intervention — but it’s often the most powerful one of all. Not when used as a technique or strategy, but when it comes from a sincere desire to understand and support you. When someone is genuinely curious about your experience, it invites you to become curious about yourself — and that’s often the first step toward self-compassion, insight, and change.
In a session, we often explore the emotional responses that arise in specific situations, and uncover the deeper intentions behind them — even when the feelings or behaviours seem confusing at first. This reveals the internal logic of your system and helps you perceive yourself with more clarity. In doing so, it supports reconnection to a deeper current of vitality — what I call the Energetic Self.
Many people carry shame, self-attack, or perfectionism. A core intervention is to invite a wider view of the human experience — how strategies for survival and self-protection emerge, and how compassion for these strategies can support growth. People often become freer not by “fixing themselves,” but by understanding themselves more deeply.
Many people are fused with their thinking without realising it. Interventions may explore how thoughts arise, how they are believed, and how they lose their grip when seen in a wider frame. This helps people separate from negative identifications and habitual beliefs.
Much interpersonal suffering comes from assuming that others see the world as we do. Sessions often include reflections on the idea of separate realities — the fact that different people interpret the same event in different ways. This helps reduce conflict, defensiveness, and confusion in relationships.
Often, the heart of an issue lies in resistance.
A powerful intervention is to help someone see where they’re demanding that life be different from how it is — and how much stress that creates and energy it consumes. Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up; it means seeing clearly. From that clarity, you can respond more effectively and direct your energy where it truly matters.
Sometimes change happens not internally, but externally — through expressing a need, setting a boundary, or influencing a dynamic. DPC includes the use of conversational models (such as Nonviolent Communication, reframing, or perceptual positioning) to help clients engage more skilfully with others.
Some sessions work with past events or persistent mental images. When helpful, this includes guided processes to re-encode emotional memories, transform internal representations, or update outdated meaning structures — using methods drawn from hypnotherapy, NLP, and related approaches.
Sometimes a powerful shift happens when just a few words are changed. For example, altering a sentence from "She attacked MY idea" to "She attacked THIS idea" can move someone from personalised defensiveness to a more detached and spacious view. These micro-adjustments offer an opportunity to experience the situation in a new way.
These interventions may seem small, but across a session, many such "nudges" may accumulate. Each small reframing opens space for a broader reorganisation of meaning. A session may build toward a moment of larger insight, but it happens through a series of layered micro-shifts.
These conceptual reframes are never forced. They are offered to the client like trying on a new lens. The client decides if the shift is helpful or not. If it doesn’t resonate, it becomes a point of reflection and further exploration. The aim is to co-create fresh conceptual possibilities that support change and integration.
Other Aspects of My Approach
My approach draws from a range of models — each offering valuable insights into how people grow, heal, and change.
NARM (NeuroAffective Relational Model)
NARM is a powerful model for working with complex trauma and early relational wounding.
Rather than focusing on reliving the past, NARM works in the present moment — helping people reconnect with self-regulation, agency, and meaningful connection. It’s especially effective in addressing patterns rooted in shame, mistrust, or disconnection from self and others.
This approach has helped many of the people I’ve worked with feel more real, more grounded, and more able to relate to life on their own terms. It has also deeply influenced many of the core concepts within Data Point Coaching.
The Psychological Illusion Model (PIM)
Earlier in my journey, I was influenced by the Psychological Illusion Model (PIM) — a practical approach for shifting stuck emotional patterns. It blends elements of NLP, hypnosis, meditative inquiry, and insights from non-dual spiritual traditions.
PIM proposes that our moment-to-moment experience is shaped by thought constructs — internal projections we often mistake for reality. Relief, in this view, comes from seeing the illusory nature of these constructs, stepping back from them, and finding clearer ways of seeing reality.
Although I don’t teach PIM as a standalone model, many of its insights have shaped both the foundations and interventions of Data Point Coaching. It also profoundly changed how I understand suffering — especially how it’s often tied to the belief that we are our thoughts or feelings, rather than someone experiencing them.
That understanding continues to inform the clarity and spaciousness I aim to bring into every session.
Cognitive Hypnotherapy
My formal training began with Cognitive Hypnotherapy (trained via The Quest Institute) — a flexible, evidence-informed approach that tailors the work to each individual.
At the start of my career, I was deeply influenced by hypnotic approaches to change. Cognitive Hypnotherapy taught me how to listen closely to language, track the deeper patterns behind symptoms, and offer interventions that help the mind rewire itself in the direction of greater choice, safety, and freedom.
In this context, hypnosis isn’t about control — it’s about skilfully using language, imagination, and story to open up new possibilities.
Other Influences
Over the years, I’ve drawn inspiration from a wide range of therapeutic and change-based models I’ve studied and explored — including:
- NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) – which explores the structure of subjective experience and offers a wide toolkit for change.
- Clean Language & Clean Space – which help people explore their inner experience using their own metaphors and symbols.
- REBT (Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy) – which brings practical insight into how thoughts, emotions, and behaviours interlink.
- IEMT (Integral Eye Movement Therapy) – which works with memory and identity imprints.
- Ericksonian Hypnosis – which uses permissive language, metaphor, and indirect suggestion to engage unconscious resources.
- Direct Hypnosis – which focuses on clarity, precision, and intention in suggestion.
- Provocative Therapy & Provocative ChangeWorks – which playfully challenge rigid patterns and create shifts through paradox.
- The Developmental Psychology of Robert Kegan – a powerful lens for understanding the unfolding stages of adult emotional and meaning-making development.
Bringing it all together
The way I work isn’t rigid. I adapt session by session, moment by moment — always guided by what will serve you best.
Whether we’re focusing on taking a new perspective, an emotional shift, or deeper patterns of identity and connection, my intention is the same: to help you return to clarity, choice, and self-trust.
If you’re ready to explore what this might look like for you —